THINGS HE LOVES TO HEAR
When a man is truly into a woman, his brain becomes a recording device for certain phrases that trigger his attraction, prime his ego, or make him feel masculine and sexy.
1. Men want to feel able to protect you
It’s not about how big his biceps are, it’s about how much he feels he can take care of you.
Maybe that sounds a little weird, but basically, even if a guy knows that you’re more than capable of taking care of everything in your own life, he still loves to hear you say to him, “I feel so safe around you,” or “you really know how to take care of me”.
2.Compliments that show that you believe in him
One of the biggest things that makes a guy melt is when his partner
supports him and believes in him.
Examples:
– I believe in you.
– I love how driven you are.
– Whatever you put your mind to, I know you’ll be able to achieve it. You always have.
– Of course you got a raise/that new job. You’re talented, hard working, and everyone knows it. I’m so proud of you.
3. Men want to know you think about them
We all love knowing that we’re in the thoughts of the person we love, and men are no different.If you come home and say to him, “I was telling Jennifer today what a wonderful man I have. She was complaining about her boyfriend and I started thinking how lucky I am to have someone like you”, he’ll immediately think of you in a more loving way.
Knowing that you talk about him in this way is a HUGE turn-on for guys. Of course, you only do this with a guy you’re already seeing, but when you do you can guarantee he’ll remember it.
4. Body and appearance-specific compliments
While men might not get as much body shaming marketing as the average woman does in western society, guys are still insecure about certain elements of their physical appearance. Besides, every person (regardless of gender) likes knowing that their partner finds them aesthetically pleasing. Whether it’s his arms, hands, eyes, thighs, or private parts that are on the receiving end of the compliment, guys aren’t too picky.
Here are some examples of compliments that my male readers said touched their heart:
– You look so handsome.
– You look so handsome in that suit/tie/outfit!
– You look beautiful when you laugh.
. Men want to be able to care for you
Not all the time (because that’s just annoying), but sometimes, a guy just wants to be able to be the one you go to when you need putting back together again. He wants to be the person who can bring you up and make you feel whole.Warning though: This only works if you are confident and strong as a person most of the time. A guy has no desire to take care of someone who always plays the “broken woman" who needs piecing back together.
6. Compliments that acknowledge his efforts
Everyone likes to be recognized for the effort that they put into their relationship.
Show
him that you appreciate what he does for you. Even the simplest things.
Notice and recognize it all. Whenever you appreciate something out
loud, you tend to get more of it. And even if you don’t, you still get
to make him feel loved.
Whether he took out the
garbage, replaced the light bulb, or did the dishes is irrelevant… what
matters is that you recognize him for his acts of service every now and
then.
Examples…
– You’re so good to me.
– Thank you so much for cooking for me, love. I really appreciate it. And this is delicious!
– You can fix anything, can’t you?
– I love how gentle you are with me.
– Thank you for listening to me. I really appreciate you letting me vent.
–
I noticed that you did (this) for me. Thank you for being so
thoughtful. I really appreciate it. You’re very sweet with me and I love
it.
– I loved seeing you playing with (mutual
friend’s) kids earlier today. Your playful side is so sexy. I love that
you can cut loose and have fun sometimes.
7. Men want to hear that you have self-belief
People mistakenly think that confidence is only a sexy trait in men. But it works both ways. Men love seeing a woman who is comfortable sexually, who believes in herself, and who takes charge of her own life.What men want is to see their woman going out in the world and embracing her own independence; just as long as you show him that you want him with you on the way!
8. Compliments that show that you respect him
Several
studies have shown that men feel respect as love and they put a higher
emotional premium on feeling respected than necessarily feeling loved.
While I don’t think that these studies necessarily mean much on the
individual level, it’s important to note that your man likely wants to
feel respected within your relationship.
Here are some ways to say it to him:
– You’re a good man.
– I’m proud of you.
– I have so much respect for you.
– You become a better version of yourself every time i see you.
– It took a lot of courage to admit you were
wrong/apologize/have that tough conversation back there… I really admire
that you were able to do that. It was very attractive.
–
I love how forgiving you are with those closest to you. It took a lot
of strength to be the bigger man back there and you couldn’t have done
any better.
– I love how considerate/caring you are with my friends/parents/co-workers. You
are so aware of other people and I really appreciate it.
are so aware of other people and I really appreciate it.
9. Compliments that show that you trust him and his ability to lead
Blame
social conditioning, biology, or whatever else you’d like to, but the
majority of men have a deep level love of being seen as the leader in
their lives and relationships.
Let him know that you see him and that you trust his way of being in the world by saying a few of the following:
– I trust you.
– I’m on your side.
– You’ve never steered us wrong in the past.
– I would follow you anywhere.
10. Compliments that show that you are affected by him
Essentially
all men know the feeling of having someone walk past them who is so
attractive that they go weak in the knees. The intoxicating rush of
attraction that we feel is a potent one.
Let him know that you feel something similar when you are around him.
– I can’t help but blush around you.
– You always know how to make me smile.
– I respond to you on such a deep level.
– I’ve never felt more safe and comfortable around any other person. I love being in your presence.