secret to what men really want in bed

Touch him

A lot of men want their women to be more physically active in bed -- starting with the hands.  ," says one Reddit user in the AskMen forum. He said this about his girlfriend "Sometimes she'll grab my neck and pull my hair if it's long enough. Ass-grabbing if you can reach. When I get closer to her she'll wrap her arms around my back and clench. Makes me feel good and helps me think that I'm doing something right." 

Relationships work best when we break down these societal differences and get into what we really want in bed: trust, closeness, and pleasure. Learning what he wants in bed will give us equal time to explore what we also want in the bedroom. After all, giving leads the way to getting.

 Initiate it more

Men don't always want to be the one to initiate intercourse. When men have to initiate every time, it makes them feel less desirable and can give them performance anxiety.

 Whisper in his ear how badly you want him inside you, or stick you hand down his pants. If you really want to rock his world, wake him with a morning blow job.

Do not judge him

 Men want to be intimate with you -- and to ask for things -- without feeling judged or criticized. Be open and loving. And if you want him to do something differently, suggests instead of saying, "You never ..." try, "It would feel great if you would do this."